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30 Lessons Learned in 30 Years

30 Lessons Learned in 30 Years

This past Sunday was my 30th birthday.  The past 10 years have been some of the most important in shaping me as a person and setting me on the path to live my remarkable life.  During this time, I have learned some important lessons that have helped shape my life. Today, to celebrate turning 30, I want to share with you some of these lessons.

30 Lessons Learned in 30 Years

1 – Everyone will tell you there is one path to success. It isn’t true. You need to takes many pieces and discover the path that works best for you.

2 – Debt sucks. You are trading your future time for current wants.

3 – Every person deserves to be treated with respect, even if they don’t believe the same things as you.

4 – We would all be better off if we were more like a toddler discovering something for the first time.
5 – You should try to make yourself uncomfortable often. You learn more about yourself when you move outside of your comfort zone.
6 – One of the best things for your mental health is spending 10 minutes everyday in a quiet room focusing on your breathe.
7 – Realizing you don’t need to live the same life as everyone else is an incredibly freeing feeling.
8 – Everyone needs a method to get their thoughts out of their head.
9 – Every person struggles with something even when it seems like they don’t.
10 – Compound interest is one of the most important concepts you can learn.  The earlier you realize it’s capabilities, the better off you will be.
11 – Most of the time you can learn more about the world from satire than the actual news.
12 – Be cautious of any advice given to you. Everyone benefits from giving advice, it is your job to find out if those benefits conflict with the advice being given.
13 – Spending time in nature is almost guaranteed to improve your mood.
14 – Time is worth more than money. Make sure you are trading it for something of equal value.
15 – Life is a lot more enjoyable when you choose to see the positive in something rather than the negative.
16 – You earn much more respect when you own up to your mistakes than when you try to blame someone else for them.
17 – There is a lot to gain in life by not believing everything your parent’s tell you.
18 – If you routinely do things that don’t bring you at least a little bit of happiness, it is time to reflect on why you are still doing those things.
19 – No matter how great technology gets, there is something special about capturing your thoughts with a pen and paper.
20 – People don’t pay attention to you nearly as much as we think they do.
21 – Reading books can make a much bigger impact on your life than many people realize.  I wish I would have learned this sooner.
22 – Every failure is an opportunity to become better – that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt any less when they happen.
23 – Cheap is normally more expensive in the long run.
24 – Most people have no business investing in individual stocks.
25 – Being able to listen to someone with your full attention without having to interject is an underrated skill.
26 – Not nearly enough people take advantage of their library.
27 – Money is a tool.  If you believe that getting more will solve all your problems, you will end up disappointed.
28 – People are always willing to give you advice but they don’t need to live with the consequences.
29 – Rationalizing the problems in your life can be one of your biggest downfalls.
30 – No matter where you are or what has happened in your life, everyone has something to be grateful for.

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  1. “We would all be better off if we were more like a toddler discovering something for the first time.” I think this is really underappreciated in today’s society. If we could all work on developing an honest inquisitiveness and beginner’s mind we would be a lot better at solving problems.

    Thanks for the lessons!
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    • Thias Thias

      Completely agree! We get so closed minded so quickly – we need to be open to looking at something with a fresh mind!

  2. I read through all 30 and I agree with each one. Coincidentally, I also turn 30 this week!

    • By the way, happy belated!

    • Thias Thias

      Happy Birthday Norman!

  3. These are good – well thought out, Thias! I definitely like the one about people who give advice don’t have to face the consequences…. absolutely true. All of us think we know it all, but it becomes a different story when it’s us having to deal with the issue.

    Happy 30th!!

    — Jim
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    • Thias Thias

      Thanks Jim! It is amazing how people don’t question some of the advice they give. No one cares more about your financial life than you!

  4. All great points Thias. Having a toddler myself, I wholeheartedly agree with #4. Toddlers get so much joy just by doing things like looking at the moon and singing their favorite song. We would do well to keep some of that toddler mentality with us. Minus the temper tantrums of course.
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    • Thias Thias

      Of course! Adults seem to have too many tantrums already 😉

  5. Thank you for putting this list together, Thias – really great stuff! While all of them were valuable, I appreciated how actionable and specific these were:

    13 – Spending time in nature is almost guaranteed to improve your mood.
    26 – Not nearly enough people take advantage of their library.

  6. I like seeing new things often, exploring is fun. I also learned about compound interest very early in life, started investing at 19. These are all good lessons, thanks.
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  7. I love these 30 lessons. It took me too long “Realizing you don’t need to live the same life as everyone else is an incredibly freeing feeling.” I had roommates that pressured me into money decisions that I wish I didn’t make. But at the end of the day I don’t blame them because those were my decisions to make. Thanks for sharing and happy belated birthday!!!
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  8. These are fantastic! I will argue against 20, though. People do pay attention to you and judge you significantly. What tie you wear, what shoes you wear, how you speak, whether the clothes you wear fit you well, etc. I never realized it until now, but people judge you for everything that you do and everything that you stand for. This has been my personal experience and what I’ve noticed so far but I would like to hear your reply Thias and get your perspective!
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